Ferdinand94
Colourful Black Sheep
What's your reaction when you lose a pet, a relative or a friend, and how do you act/feel during the days following the unfortunate event?
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What's your reaction when you lose a pet, a relative or a friend, and how do you act/feel during the days following the unfortunate event?
aspies are usually emotionalto be honest my emotional reaction (or lack there of) always kinda scared me. not to say i think its a bad quality to have but not one that i personally want. i never had emotional reactions from death, cats, rabbits, birds, rats. i have had all these pets and while they died and i felt sad i never felt the reaction was big, when my church pastor died young (last year) i was sad or maybe it felt like i was supposed to be but any actual emotional reaction was only the product of the thought, wow i will never see them again. that kinda sucks.
i dont think this is inheritly a bad quality just maybe its hard to accept its a quality i may not want for myself but its one i do have. i dont think this quality means someone doesnt care, maybe we dont have reactions because we care so much some times (many aspies and myself were very emotional as a child and cried a ton and threw tantrums)
Unless it's a grief exclusive to me, I wait my turn. In example, when a relative miscarried, I suppressed and ignored my grief for a few weeks so I could support the relatives I had contact with who can't just switch off their emotions as easily. When the bulk of their grieving was done, then I let mine surface and run its course, and of course what few I let know I was grieving were able to offer support as they knew was best for me.
If it's something that'll bother mostly me and not anybody else, I'll bawl my eyes out whenever I find a good private place. It nearly killed me to kill my 17-year-old cat, but it was better to have him put down then suffer a slow death to a horrendous ear infection that was killing him that I couldn't have afforded to cured. Aw hell, I cried all the way to and from the vet, and some while I was there. It still bothers me. My other cat who died a year later who was 18 didn't bother me as bad since plain ol' old age got her even though I was closer to her. I didn't have to kill her. =(
Typically for me it doesn't really register. For a while. And then when it does I have a complete break down for anywhere from a few hours to a few weeks.
Also this.Pretty much what happens to me. And yes, ''Complete breakdown'' is the word for it.
Whatever, I killed him. Putting a nice label on it doesn't change that.it's called putting to sleep or mercy killing. you make it sound as if you killed him out of malice, when you really just did what's best for him. being so old as 17, he wouldnt have lived much longer, and you didnt want him to suffer.
I know how you feel, and i can't say anything to make you feel better. *hugs*Whatever, I killed him. Putting a nice label on it doesn't change that.