Thank you. Yes, my boyfriend got hurt before he got diagnosed with Asbergers. He loves me but they'll be days he becomes distant and withdrawn. He told me he shuts down when he's stressed out but still thinks of me daily. I think of it as a computer shutting down and going to sleep mode. Correct me if I'm wrong cause I'm still learning.
He has trust issues from him getting heartbroken which I can understand. When I spoke to his friend he seemed a little jealous but I reminded him that I love him and only him and not to worry. He calmed down and I held his hand. I have lots of patience but if I'm confused or frustrated he picks up on it and thinks it's him. Again I remind him I love him and that I'll do research. He's very smart, nerdy, loves video games, electronics, anime and cats. He owns four and I love them. Pluto is his favorite. Anytime he plays the guitar he'll ask me for opinions on what he needs to work on. I love him but I won't say it a lot cause I can sense too much of me saying it freaks him out. And when we do cuddle and kiss, he's very sweet and gentle. I always talk with him and remember when he's distant to not message him. It's just patience and communication, and I make him laugh to lighten his moods. I suffer with bipolar and I've worked on my moods for years and I always tell him if I get too sad I'll tell you and hugs are best if I'm upset but not to try to save me. My sadness is my issue and don't feel bad. He hugs me lots and I do the same for him. He means a lot to me.