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I got diagnosed late in my thirties. I have never had a job. I spent my youth partying and studying. I have two MA's from two different countries in two creative artistic fields that are near each other.
I had a career in the first field going for a couple of years but perfectionism and anxiety made it impossible to continue. I took some years of, got diagnosed, went through heavy medication (anti depressants, anti psychotics and benzo). The only thing that really helped was the anti psychotics, but they made me so tired and also made me gain weight. I didn't like that so I went back to the anti depressants, and tried many different sorts. (Since a year back Im no longer on medication. I started to feel disgusted by that I was messing with my brain and nervous system and body and so much more no one understands the consequences of. And I experienced a lot of negative effects. My stomach was constantly swollen, I got overheated as soon as I took a walk etc. It made me feel extremely uncomfortable in my body which was as worse as the depression). It was really hard to quit the medication, but after several months it got better. And I like to feel that my feelings can actually grow from things I experience instead of being locked away behind a wall of pills. It feels like I can get stronger, I think).
I applied for my second MA two years ago with hoped I would be able to handle that better than my first MA and the career that followed after that. It turned out to be one of the worst and best experiences of my life. One of the best because I learned more than ever before and came up on a professional level where I had not been before. The college is one of the best in the world. But it was one of the worst experience of my life because I was newly diagnosed with Asperger syndrome and more aware of myself. It soon became clear that I didn't fit into the social circles of college. I couldn't handle that at all. I became very alone and it soon took the wrong direction. My perfectionism took over and made it almost impossible to work. I stopped coming in to college, started to do all work from
Home. I felt more and more anxiety and stress and the feeling of not being able to think was almost constant the second year. I started to see my earlier life more clearly and I could see that it has always been like this. It made me feel ashamed of my whole life, it all felt wasted.
My girlfriend tried her best to help me, but she doesn't understand autism. She think everyone can do everything if the try hard enough. Which to some extent may be true, but in other situations it can be fatal and the backlash can be severe. Forcing myself to do things I can't handle can make me deeply exhausted and depressed for long periods. This she doesn't understand, or believes in. I try to tell her that I can feel how I am like a glass of external and internal information that is starting to flow over and I need to rest before that happens, but she pressure me to continue. She think this helps me, which it sometimes does, but other times I crash completely. And because she is the one nearest to me she gets to be near me when I have no energy left for thinking positive thoughts and she got to take all the bad energy. She calls me an energy vampire.
My girlfriend have had to stand my very low mood, depression and anxiety. And I have been more and more aware of that I behave horrible for long periods, that my mood is terrible to be around. That I am almost bipolar, going from thinking that I am better than everyone else to having the lowest of self esteem. I only compare myself to the best, nothing else matters. Another thing is a can get obsessed in collecting things. The last two years I collected information and also equipment for my special field of profession. I spent a lot of money and all the things take up quite some space. It's useful equipment but it often makes me nauseous to see it. Because I can feel the pressure to use it to do extraordinary things.
Now the two years of college is over and I don't feel like I succeeded being one of the top students who will go on to have a successful career. It feels just like before I started. It's almost like an insane dream. Two years just went by. So many meltdowns, so much anxiety. So much loosing all self respect and self value.
I understand that a career comes as much from networking as it does from being good at what you do. I have often felt like I am about to go insane. The better I become at what I do, the more intense this becomes. I would love to just being able to have a life but I have never worked, I can't handle social relations, I get tired very easily, of noise and people etc. And I have severe problems with thinking and organising my life, to get overview, come up with and follow routines that are good for me. I also am aware that I am no longer young. I understand that many of the dreams I had can no longer be fulfilled, at least not in the youthful way I so long dreamed of.
I am afraid of being a failure. Who have two MA's without a career? Of course I have grown as a human being because of my intensive studying, I understand so much more now. But knowledge can also help widen a gravitational hole of noise and homelessness, crazyness.
It feels like I'm trapped. I have no close friends in the country I now live in. My girlfriend and I are not happy. When I think of working on my own in my creative artistic field it feels like I will go crazy. I can feel the anxiety imidiatly. I just got my MA exam and college is over. Everyone in my year seems happy. I'm thinking of taking a razor blade, and find a forest where I can lie down in the grass and go to eternal sleep, not because I want to die, but because I can't live. This planet was for me until I was seven years old, I was always very happy then. After that I became self aware and started my accension into some sort void. Everything became distant and complicated: the relationship to others, to my own thoughts and body, to almost everything. I had a lot of relationships and girlfriends, but the relationships were all very stormy and crazy. It was somehow ok then, because I was younger and many of my girlfriends were "crazy" too. But with age things change and I started to want many things I before wasn't even interested in. It was then I realised I couldn't get these things even if I wanted. My life was problematic when I was young, but it was way more romantic. I guess that is youth, living with less attention to being responsible. It gets harder the older I get. The intensity of fear and noise gets stronger.
I am tired of my creativity because I suspect that when I have all my ideas and are somewhat happy, the ideas are in many aspects delusional. That's what my girlfriend tells me. It's all to much. It's too big, too grandiose. And it's not so original or well presented as I like to think it is when I'm in these states of mind.
I do not fit in, with anything or anyone. Why carry on when it's soo much pain and when my life creates pain in the persons I get close to? I am tired of myself. I was raised to believe I was special. And yes, I am special, but there isn't much good about it, at least not in the world where I am now.
I had a career in the first field going for a couple of years but perfectionism and anxiety made it impossible to continue. I took some years of, got diagnosed, went through heavy medication (anti depressants, anti psychotics and benzo). The only thing that really helped was the anti psychotics, but they made me so tired and also made me gain weight. I didn't like that so I went back to the anti depressants, and tried many different sorts. (Since a year back Im no longer on medication. I started to feel disgusted by that I was messing with my brain and nervous system and body and so much more no one understands the consequences of. And I experienced a lot of negative effects. My stomach was constantly swollen, I got overheated as soon as I took a walk etc. It made me feel extremely uncomfortable in my body which was as worse as the depression). It was really hard to quit the medication, but after several months it got better. And I like to feel that my feelings can actually grow from things I experience instead of being locked away behind a wall of pills. It feels like I can get stronger, I think).
I applied for my second MA two years ago with hoped I would be able to handle that better than my first MA and the career that followed after that. It turned out to be one of the worst and best experiences of my life. One of the best because I learned more than ever before and came up on a professional level where I had not been before. The college is one of the best in the world. But it was one of the worst experience of my life because I was newly diagnosed with Asperger syndrome and more aware of myself. It soon became clear that I didn't fit into the social circles of college. I couldn't handle that at all. I became very alone and it soon took the wrong direction. My perfectionism took over and made it almost impossible to work. I stopped coming in to college, started to do all work from
Home. I felt more and more anxiety and stress and the feeling of not being able to think was almost constant the second year. I started to see my earlier life more clearly and I could see that it has always been like this. It made me feel ashamed of my whole life, it all felt wasted.
My girlfriend tried her best to help me, but she doesn't understand autism. She think everyone can do everything if the try hard enough. Which to some extent may be true, but in other situations it can be fatal and the backlash can be severe. Forcing myself to do things I can't handle can make me deeply exhausted and depressed for long periods. This she doesn't understand, or believes in. I try to tell her that I can feel how I am like a glass of external and internal information that is starting to flow over and I need to rest before that happens, but she pressure me to continue. She think this helps me, which it sometimes does, but other times I crash completely. And because she is the one nearest to me she gets to be near me when I have no energy left for thinking positive thoughts and she got to take all the bad energy. She calls me an energy vampire.
My girlfriend have had to stand my very low mood, depression and anxiety. And I have been more and more aware of that I behave horrible for long periods, that my mood is terrible to be around. That I am almost bipolar, going from thinking that I am better than everyone else to having the lowest of self esteem. I only compare myself to the best, nothing else matters. Another thing is a can get obsessed in collecting things. The last two years I collected information and also equipment for my special field of profession. I spent a lot of money and all the things take up quite some space. It's useful equipment but it often makes me nauseous to see it. Because I can feel the pressure to use it to do extraordinary things.
Now the two years of college is over and I don't feel like I succeeded being one of the top students who will go on to have a successful career. It feels just like before I started. It's almost like an insane dream. Two years just went by. So many meltdowns, so much anxiety. So much loosing all self respect and self value.
I understand that a career comes as much from networking as it does from being good at what you do. I have often felt like I am about to go insane. The better I become at what I do, the more intense this becomes. I would love to just being able to have a life but I have never worked, I can't handle social relations, I get tired very easily, of noise and people etc. And I have severe problems with thinking and organising my life, to get overview, come up with and follow routines that are good for me. I also am aware that I am no longer young. I understand that many of the dreams I had can no longer be fulfilled, at least not in the youthful way I so long dreamed of.
I am afraid of being a failure. Who have two MA's without a career? Of course I have grown as a human being because of my intensive studying, I understand so much more now. But knowledge can also help widen a gravitational hole of noise and homelessness, crazyness.
It feels like I'm trapped. I have no close friends in the country I now live in. My girlfriend and I are not happy. When I think of working on my own in my creative artistic field it feels like I will go crazy. I can feel the anxiety imidiatly. I just got my MA exam and college is over. Everyone in my year seems happy. I'm thinking of taking a razor blade, and find a forest where I can lie down in the grass and go to eternal sleep, not because I want to die, but because I can't live. This planet was for me until I was seven years old, I was always very happy then. After that I became self aware and started my accension into some sort void. Everything became distant and complicated: the relationship to others, to my own thoughts and body, to almost everything. I had a lot of relationships and girlfriends, but the relationships were all very stormy and crazy. It was somehow ok then, because I was younger and many of my girlfriends were "crazy" too. But with age things change and I started to want many things I before wasn't even interested in. It was then I realised I couldn't get these things even if I wanted. My life was problematic when I was young, but it was way more romantic. I guess that is youth, living with less attention to being responsible. It gets harder the older I get. The intensity of fear and noise gets stronger.
I am tired of my creativity because I suspect that when I have all my ideas and are somewhat happy, the ideas are in many aspects delusional. That's what my girlfriend tells me. It's all to much. It's too big, too grandiose. And it's not so original or well presented as I like to think it is when I'm in these states of mind.
I do not fit in, with anything or anyone. Why carry on when it's soo much pain and when my life creates pain in the persons I get close to? I am tired of myself. I was raised to believe I was special. And yes, I am special, but there isn't much good about it, at least not in the world where I am now.