Jorg
Well-Known Member
Some weeks ago I posted a (long) story on the dating thread here but it wasn't...well...I probably made it too long and I didn't get any answers.
Long story short, I went out with an old friend from high school, she was my crush since then but I didn't do anyting because she had a boyfriend and our lives lipted up. Around a year ago (I guess) she broke up with her boryfriend and around june-july I contacted her (we've been facebook friends since high school and we had our cellphone numbers), we went out a couple of times just as friends, she invited me to her appartment and well I rushed too soon and told her how I felt about her through whatsapp, she told me thank you but she saw me just as a friend and didn't want to hurt me.
Like a month ago I told her I was aspie and that that's why I always was shy, that even when I didn't talk so much I value my friends a lot and probably went too intense and fast with her. She answered me it was ok but she wanted me as a friend and didn't want to be rude. I told her thanks for answer me and I hoped one day we could maybe hang out again, she told me ok, but later or further.
Anyway, I don't know what to do, a part of me whants her more than friends, another part knows by experience that if I pushed things I will loose her forever even as a friend. Now, the point is I know my mistake was rushing things, we had several years since the last time we saw each other and she probably was still hurted by the brake up. Even her sister told me I had to take things slow baceuse she was in a "complicated time".
I want to try going out, taking it slow and make her know me better, I guess we need to talk more, and know each other a lot more as friends and then idk. Could I still have a chance with her? or it will be a waste of time and will I end hurt?
Long story short, I went out with an old friend from high school, she was my crush since then but I didn't do anyting because she had a boyfriend and our lives lipted up. Around a year ago (I guess) she broke up with her boryfriend and around june-july I contacted her (we've been facebook friends since high school and we had our cellphone numbers), we went out a couple of times just as friends, she invited me to her appartment and well I rushed too soon and told her how I felt about her through whatsapp, she told me thank you but she saw me just as a friend and didn't want to hurt me.
Like a month ago I told her I was aspie and that that's why I always was shy, that even when I didn't talk so much I value my friends a lot and probably went too intense and fast with her. She answered me it was ok but she wanted me as a friend and didn't want to be rude. I told her thanks for answer me and I hoped one day we could maybe hang out again, she told me ok, but later or further.
Anyway, I don't know what to do, a part of me whants her more than friends, another part knows by experience that if I pushed things I will loose her forever even as a friend. Now, the point is I know my mistake was rushing things, we had several years since the last time we saw each other and she probably was still hurted by the brake up. Even her sister told me I had to take things slow baceuse she was in a "complicated time".
I want to try going out, taking it slow and make her know me better, I guess we need to talk more, and know each other a lot more as friends and then idk. Could I still have a chance with her? or it will be a waste of time and will I end hurt?