Dryope
Active Member
Is it controversial to say this? But I care deeply about things. About everything I do.
NTs don't seem to. I don't actually know if they care or not, but things just...seem less important to them.
Perhaps it's just me misreading them? Or perhaps they are masking their true feelings?
I know people with BPD also care a lot about little things. I think a lot of female aspies have BPD tendencies.
But it's more than that. It's not just emotion dysregulation. It's also perfectionism and being detail-oriented.
I want to understand what I don't understand, and I will work hard to break it apart, understand the pieces, and then examine the whole. I will spend time puzzling it out. And I put my emotions into that. I'd rather analyze an argument than go have "fun." I am argumentative to understand, not to seem superior.
I care about everything I do. I'm not a saint: I'm passionate. I cut up an onion and I think about the cruelty to that onion, dying at last. I had metaphysical thoughts about the universe and infinite time and my place in the world all the time as a young child, around the time I started reading. I make connections, I ask questions. My brain works like that automatically. I sometimes wish it didn't.
Most important, I see everything on multiple levels. I see myself refracted, at all times, one side examining another. Unless it's a question of justice, I always have multiple viewpoints, multiple angles. The rules of society contradict, and a lot is contingent on the rules. How can I only see things one way?
I think it's this that sets us apart from NTs. Not that they don't do these things; but in how they and we approach life. There is...some key difference connected here. I don't see, I probe; I don't act, I engage emotionally.
Am I completely off base? Does anyone else feel this, too? This seems like the core of who I am and what I recognize in other people on the spectrum. But one part of me says I'm just spinning it all up in my head and misunderstanding the real picture.
NTs don't seem to. I don't actually know if they care or not, but things just...seem less important to them.
Perhaps it's just me misreading them? Or perhaps they are masking their true feelings?
I know people with BPD also care a lot about little things. I think a lot of female aspies have BPD tendencies.
But it's more than that. It's not just emotion dysregulation. It's also perfectionism and being detail-oriented.
I want to understand what I don't understand, and I will work hard to break it apart, understand the pieces, and then examine the whole. I will spend time puzzling it out. And I put my emotions into that. I'd rather analyze an argument than go have "fun." I am argumentative to understand, not to seem superior.
I care about everything I do. I'm not a saint: I'm passionate. I cut up an onion and I think about the cruelty to that onion, dying at last. I had metaphysical thoughts about the universe and infinite time and my place in the world all the time as a young child, around the time I started reading. I make connections, I ask questions. My brain works like that automatically. I sometimes wish it didn't.
Most important, I see everything on multiple levels. I see myself refracted, at all times, one side examining another. Unless it's a question of justice, I always have multiple viewpoints, multiple angles. The rules of society contradict, and a lot is contingent on the rules. How can I only see things one way?
I think it's this that sets us apart from NTs. Not that they don't do these things; but in how they and we approach life. There is...some key difference connected here. I don't see, I probe; I don't act, I engage emotionally.
Am I completely off base? Does anyone else feel this, too? This seems like the core of who I am and what I recognize in other people on the spectrum. But one part of me says I'm just spinning it all up in my head and misunderstanding the real picture.