nyxjord
Well-Known Member
Okay I'm sure this might sound weird but I was diagnosed as having HFA almost a year ago and I still haven't come out to my fiance. We have been together for five years and he never had his children with his ex-wife vaccinated because she (and he, consequently) are part of the group that believe that vaccines cause ASD. They are still both adamant believers of this. Obviously it is quite difficult for me to come to him with thus diagnosis-- how will he react to finding out the person he is planning on marrying has the very thing that he/they so desperately hate/fear.. So much so that they'd endanger the kids' lives in order to prevent the kids from getting that very thing? I honestly think if I tell him it will be the beginning of the end of our relationship. I especially don't think that he as an nt could possibly understand what it us like to be on the spectrum-- let alone accept and love me with my diagnosis. I have contemplated just never telling him as he has just accepted my 'quirks' by this point and is used to me. However, I'm becoming very involved in our community and am even considering starting a group at my college for people on the spectrum- so I'd be out to all these people but the one person I'd like to tell.. Is pretty much off limits. I mean, I really just don't know how he is going to take it but I think there's a 75% chance that our relationship will end if I tell him-- just because of that fear/ hatred that his ex wife has drilled in him about ASD and vaccinations. Now, I'm not looking for advice about whether or not to tell him or a lecture about lying... I'm just wanting to hear your experiences about telling either your anti-asd or anti-vax partner/family or similar experiences like that. What happened? How did they take it? How has your relationship/friendship been since then?
Oh and I have tried to sit down and rally with him about how vax's do not cause ASD but his ex wife has him so convinced that there's just no way to ever change his mind. I tried to do that even before I knew of my DX.
Oh and I have tried to sit down and rally with him about how vax's do not cause ASD but his ex wife has him so convinced that there's just no way to ever change his mind. I tried to do that even before I knew of my DX.