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Asperger's & Autism Forum
Any eccentrics out there?
I didn't know that I was an aspie until my daughter was diagnosed. I've since taken many tests online coming up as aspie 100% of the time, score of 33 on theaspergerstestsite.com. I always knew I was different, but I, like others had no idea just how different. I flew under the radar as the troubled kid. When I was in 9th grade the principal told me to drop out of school. I never had help and then became a mom, by choice at 17, which I excelled at because of my obsessive reading on the subject of how to parent. I am now 32, married for 10 years, but have never worked or driven. The jobs I have had I created myself, I taught myself Web design, I actually run a community page on facebook, that I created myself because of my obsessive need to collect local event information. Ironically, I rarely attend the events I post. My ideas on community actually came from my love of watching Mr. Rogers when I was a kid. I am creative, focused, but not driven because I have huge demand anxiety....
So I am 18 and legally allowed to drive now in Belgium, after I get my driver licenses that is but whenever I practice I get so tired after a while I just have to stop and then I instantly fall asleep. So now I am wondering if this happens for you as well or if it is just something personal, and what your driving stories are.
Hi there! Again...
So two days ago or so I joined this site. I wasn't very detailed in my introductory thread.
At the end I said that I believe I have Asperger's and that while my neurodiverse and neurotypical traits are of a similar number (ND Score: 110 of 200, NT Score: 107 of 200. That's the first test I took, the second said something like ND Score: 114 of 200, ND Score: 107 of 200. The third and most recent said I had an ND Score of 98 and an NT Score of 101. I was being very anal with the third test. Either way, it said I seem to have neurotypical and neurodiverse traits) that this "feels right". (<----This paragraph has horrible formatting, I'm sorry)
And it does feel right.
But I'm finding that I don't exhibit a lot of the common traits, leading me to doubt my self-diagnosis. Perhaps I was too desperate to find some sort of solution, and jumped on the most plausible answer? I wouldn't exactly put it past me.
So what do YOU think?
Traits I DO Exhibit
I am curious about this aspect of family dynamics, where a person with Asperger's is a brother or sister of an NT. For my part, I have a younger brother who is very successful as a husband, father, career professional and provider. He is very proficient with home improvement, financial management, and social situations, in fact, he and his wife are practically friends with their whole neighborhood. By contrast, my wife and I don't even know the names of our neighbors, have virtually no visitors or friends, not great with money, and I am definitely a lousy homeowner. I work two low end jobs just to survive (wife works too), and rely heavily on my in-laws for child care. Oh, and my sister-in-law gets to be a stay at home mom too.
I have to admit that I fight bloody battles with jealousy! Does anyone else have this problem?
I'm curious. Is it common for female aspies to be creative? To enjoy cooking, sewing, arts & crafts? Decorating? Doing hair and nails? Painting, or anything creative?
I don't seem to have any interest in any of it. I don't have a lot in common with stereotypical females. But I'm not a tomboy either. I don't like camping, bugs, dirt. I am not good with a tool belt. I don't like sports, online computer games. I don't have any typical male interests.
I do identify as a heterosexual female. I don't really have any hobbies. I enjoy reading, movies and LOVE researching stuff.
Am I an odd ball even in the aspie community? Are there any other aspie females who lack interests and hobbies?
READ IT ALL, ITS INTERESTING AND YOU KNOW YOU DO;
Do you feel lonelier or left out because of things you see in the media, fiction or witness in real life?
So for people in the UK it’d perhaps be soap-operas (also known as serial dramas) where you have a group of fictional friends (who are for the time of filming probably kinda friends in real life too) on TV that you feel you almost know and could be part of the group with even though in reality (and your knowledge of aspergers and your own social limitations and other peoples lack of affection etc towards you) you know that they’d be no different to all the other non celebs you’ve wanted to but failed to become friends with.
Or maybe it’s the girls in the group you find ‘hot’, but you know that they’d never turn to you when their fictional partner has cheated on them or they’re in some other spot of bother (much as you fantasize or could perhaps genuinely be of comfort or the new lover that they turn to) not that you could see...
I get told quite often that I come across quite formal in email's, letter's, texts, etc.
I have an idea of what I want to say but as soon as I start to type it tends to end up that way. I'm not sure if it's due to me having an image of it having a start, middle and an end every time.
For example, if someone that I'm working with from a different department emails me a document that I need, I couldn't just email back "Thanks, S", even the word "Thanks" gets to me. I would respond with a full thank you.
I also seem to start every email with "Hi X, Hope you are well." I don't know where it comes from I do it all the time even though I could have spoken to them five seconds before or know that they are dying of man flu. And I also end with "Kind regards...".
Back to the subject at hand, does anyone have any ideas of how I can soften up my emails?
I am happy and grateful to be working but it seems like management treats me like a red-headed step child. I don't necessarily mind it because I know that I am intelligent and capable but I think they see my "autismness" and they don't see me. While part of me would like more respect, the other side of me believes it really doesn't matter. I'm employed to do a job, not make friends.
Everything is spelled out for me a little too clearly, if you catch my drift. I cope with this by not hanging around the office. When I come to work, I get my vehicle and I leave. The less time I have to mull over office politics, the happier that I am.
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