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I wonder is Aspie's are prone to stubbornness?
I'm very easy going simply because I'm not that bothered one way or the other about most things.
However, with things that are important to me, I am utterly immovable. I'm like the terminator, and I'll never stop, never give up until I get where I want to be or get destroyed by a bigger, better terminator.
I wondered to a friend whether she thought I was stubborn (I wasn't sure at the time). Her response was that I'm the most stubborn person she's ever met, and that is really saying something.
I took that as a yes.
Also as a compliment
I'm a 10.
(note - public poll)
Hi, not sure if that was the best title in terms of relevance but eh, it'll do.
Basically, I'm 17 now, nearly 18. I tried to go to college at 16 like everyone else (UK), but I couldn't due to anxiety and ended up dropping out, I've tried to go since, and also tried other pathways such as apprenticeships etc, I really do want to go to college and eventually onto university.
I thought I had found the perfect solution when I came across a college specifically for autistic "high functioning" people, which gave the option of A levels, but it wasn't all it seemed. I've since done more research and I've found a direct pattern between courses available and type of educational institution, in pretty much every case I've found, those schools/colleges that do offer A levels, offer it externally at a mainstream college and for those students who cannot attend said mainstream college, they do entry level courses such as independent living skills etcetc.
At risk of sounding vain, I've always...
I have never understood why eye contact feels such a task to do
Hated school when the teachers told me to look at them and not the floor or walls etc etc i can only explain it as someones gaze is freezing me to the spot im standing on.. Being pinned to a wall or the gaze is just knocking me backwards so i tend to look away most times
I've come to the conclusion my mum is on the spectrum as I've gone through the process of having my daughter diagnosed and recognising so many traits in myself. I stopped speaking to my mum two years ago and even now I'm sure she's Aspie I don't want contact. I just feel so angry for how she treated me growing up - she has no boundaries, will bluntly tell me in front of my kids I'm 'getting so fat you look pregnant' (currently weigh 68kg and have had five kids - so a little baggy skin around my tummy, but certainly not even slightly overweight!). She would phone guys I was dating (even in my 30's!) to meet for coffee so she could 'help' us, even admitted she was 'in love' with one guy I dated for two years and tried to sleep with him. Would phone my boss to say he needed to understand I was 'going through some stuff at home' so he could go easy on me. If she spent time with my kids and I, she would phone me later to say my daughter was 'too clingy' and I shouldn't favour her by...
If you have echolalia, like I do you have the potential of becoming a polyglot ike myself, we are like human parrots, we memorize and repeat what others say including other languages, like in my case I live and a rather diverse international area in the United States, and learned Mandarin and speak like a native and have been picking up Hindi, Korean, Tagalog,Japanese,Thai, Vietnamese, as well as Spanish, French, Farsi and a few bits and pieces of other languages out of curiousity, repetetiveness and memory retention, omg im such a freak but I cant help it. If you have echolalia you have a potential of being a polyglot like myself, the languages I speak, I sound like a native but that is just because of my memory retention of the tones spoken of the languages spoken.
question is: how do you experience mindblindness? - if you do experience it.
> mindblindness: if one is not familiar with this term; it means that you have a problem with mentalizing. quote wiki: In psychology, mentalization is the ability to understand the mental state, of oneself or others, that underlies overt behaviour. Mentalization can be seen as a form of imaginative mental activity that lets us perceive and interpret human behaviour in terms of intentional mental states (e.g., needs, desires, feelings, beliefs, goals, purposes, and reasons)
it helps to understand nonverbal signals, to relate to people, be social, to figure out what others feel and think, to take somebody else's perspective...
as for me: the greatest part of my life i have been a 100% mindblind - it's changing a little bit now, i'm practicing. before that: i only see people 'from the outside'. i can hardly imagine another mind than my own; therefore i can't really imagine what other minds are like - except...
All these years of being misunderstood, not to mention failed relationships, trying to figure out why I can't relate to most people has made my life quite difficult. After finding out through online assessments (no official diagnosis due to financial issues) that I was on the spectrum about a month or so ago, I feel it was bittersweet. I'm glad I have knowledge of it, but at the same time I'm wondering where to go from here. I don't have the emotional energy to date right now. I'd really like to hear from others.
i find it very hard to hate/dislike someone even if i logically believe i should, and in the past the few times i have felt dislike for someone it fades quickly. i was just wondering if any of you other aspies ever run into this. (also i count this as the reason that i can not understand why anyone would have bigotry for any other human)
Channel 4 here in the UK conducting a survey in conjunction with the Autism Research Centre with Professor Simon Baron-Cohen. The data will be used in a new programme called How Autistic Are You? You also have the choice of allowing Cambridge University to use your data anonymously too.
40 questions, 5 minutes. Have a go if you're interested.
How Autistic Are You? - All 4
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