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After reading many threads here I began to wonder if, in general, people with Asperger's tend to be more non-conformist than NTs. By that I mean do Aspies tend get into the latest fads or have little or no interest in them? Or is it the same with Aspies as it is with NTs--Some do, some don't and it's simply not an Asperger's trait?
I have read Aspies referring to themselves as non-conformist however I don't think they were talking about fads or popular culture. That part I get.
I am in the non-conformist category. I pay no attention whatsoever to popular culture except when it directly affects me, sometimes against my will.
Ok I am going to post here for some input because I don't feel anyone up to now had been able to help me figure out what's going on with me. I have had the same symptoms for years since middle/high school. They are, rapid, sudden mood swings on the drop of a hat, that go from zero to 100 in seconds, sometimes a few times a day. I can be feeling relatively calm but then something will set me off into a rage and I will see only red and flip out. I get very very angry. It could be anything from seeing an unclean house to a scratch on my car to feeling slighted by someone. This can also be extreme sadness, I could be fine but the next moment feel deeply deeply sad or depressed but not too long after, feel fairly calm again. During these times too, I can get extremely amped up and act very impulsively,which has gotten me into some financial trouble because I tend to impulse buy if I'm feeling amped up, excited, or antsy. I tend to get this amped up, hyper aware mood that seems to...
I'm fairly certain many people on this forum have shared a similar experience. That blank stare midway through a conversation when someone is either thinking there's something off, or just flat out asks if you're weird in the head or a sociopath. I wonder if it's a bad idea to tell people, even friends and family, if you're an aspie or autistic? If they're already thinking your a sociopath it really couldn't be much worse, could it? And yes, I know people gossip, but when you have no friends and people already think you're a weirdo it couldn't hurt.
I myself haven't even brought up the topic of Aspergers with my family, as my father refused to let me be diagnosed when I was younger because he didn't want the stigma and I honestly think that my family would treat me even worse and ostracise me if I did bring it up. Funny, since my father to this day still will tell me I'm a "f***** up person". So my question is, does it even mattter? If people will not accept you for who you are...
I couldn't find this particular expression while searching so I hope it has already been discussed to death, but I very recently began reading more about Asperger's and found this website only a couple of days ago. I have learned a lot and have a lot to learn and I am amazed, but I guess not too surprised, at how much I relate to most of the people here. I actually feel like I fit in which doesn't happen to me very often.
I have always felt like I had some terrible secret inside of me that I couldn't let anyone know about. At one point, after discussing a few things with a doctor, I was prescribed some medication. I looked it up and it was an anti-psychotic drug. Could I be psychotic? Somehow I could not relate very well to Norman Bates from Hitchcock's famous movie and he was about the only psychotic person I was familiar with. After reading many posts here about people wearing "masks" in public I think it is beginning to fit together. Is this how some of you feel,...
This may sound odd, but do any of you feel like you look normal when you are alone and look yourself in the mirror, but you appear to be almost a different person when you are in a social setting. It is hard to explain, but I've caught glimpses of myself in a mirror or a reflection while in a social setting and I look a whole lot different than when I am alone. I think it mostly has to do with my mannerisms in a social setting. It is quite obvious to me that I am not typical and I can understand how someone can quickly pick up that something is not quite right with me. But when I am alone, I appear quite normal. Maybe that's why it is so difficult to be aware of how we present ourselves in social settings - it is b/c we are blind to our differences when we are alone, but they emerge when with others. This post probably sounds confusing, but has anyone else noticed this?
I had gone all of my life not knowing about Asperger's until recently. I had always had signs my mom even said she thought I had it when I was a toddler, when I brought it up in the car. When I first found out about it after watching Death Note, I identified with many symptoms and it solved a lot of questions in my life. I played a lot of sports which is probably unusually for an aspie. So the main symptoms I had noticed where the motor ones. I red a study which confirmed my theory that the reason I was clumsy was because of partially dysfunctional proprioception ( knowing where you are in space ).
The question I pose is to fellow aspies, is do you look at your fingers while typing? And are their any other things you have noticed in life that are caused by your faulty proprioception, such as tripping over your own feet.
I consider myself very logical and quite reasonable, and I often have problem communicating (or arguing) with NTs.
Before anyone tells me the cliche, no I'm the "He has different opinions so I'm right and he's unreasonable" kind of people. By "logical" I meant the actual logic, the one which includes 'premises' 'conclusions' and 'If q than p if not p than not q".
The kind of argument that often occurs between me and an NT:
"If the purpose of your question was to seek truth, then you ask the wrong one because both answers lead to the same conclusion."
"But if what you just said was true, than your previous assumption couldn't possibly be true as well. Yes I know what you wanted to do but I'm telling you it's pointless!"
"If you could keep asking 'Why?' it'd create an infinite causality chain.......NO I just told you it would be infinite"
In these situations NTs usually keep holding their arguments without realizing their logical flaws, leaving me with a headache.
Do you have...
So I'm 19 and I've never really been in a relationship before. That's not to say that I haven't tried. It seems like all the girls I like never end up liking me no matter what I do and this is hurting my confidence and just my general emotional wellness. I'm frustrated with getting turned down all the time. I've also dealt with really bad self-esteem issues which I am just now starting to get over but constantly being shot down is not helping.
I tried reading PUA stuff and that didn't work so I just stopped doing that so I went to my father and he suggested to just start off by saying "Hi" but the girls don't even like that. I'll either get a weird look or no response or both. I've been told not to seek it out and let it come, but I can't help. When I want something, I normally try harder to get it. I'm so freaking tired of this. It has gotten to the point where I've become somewhat of a defeatist and just expect to get turned down because it has happened to me so much.
I think this is more of a rant than anything but I'm a bit confused so thought it best I write it out and create a new thread.
Anyway, in January two friends that I have known for 15 years that I thought were my best friends, started ignoring me. I got some vague, passive aggressive type messages (example; I'm only being honest with you..../ don't you think there's a reason why your family dosen't support you) I texted that I didn't really understand, the reply to that was 'dont contact us again'. I was hurt, but deleted their numbers and tried to move on.
But yesterday one of these friends sent me a text. She admitted that she was being fake, she wasn't really feeling a bond and I wasn't really her friend anymore. She admitted to being bored and 'life was too short' to spend time with me! She said it wasn't a slight on me but she doesn't care whether I'm offended or not, and I could tell her about it if I am.
I don't know what to make of this?? Is it nasty, or is she just being...
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