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Do you suffer from this kind of thing?
I woke up in the middle of last night thinking about a house I may rent that I'm going to see this week. I like the pictures, and it's a nice house.
But, what if the neighbours are noisy? Some people run "party houses" around here and play loud music outside every weekend.
That would drive me crazy.
Maybe i could drive past on Friday night. And Saturday night.
It's half an hour away, so maybe I'd be better parking my car and wait around for an hour or two.
But my wife needs help with the kids.
Could I leave an old smart phone attached to a post so I can record the noise? Yes, but my old phone battery doesn't last long, and maybe that's a bit dodgy too. Webcam? No power source or disk or transmitter.
It's a nice house.
But what about the neighbours, this is really important...
And on and on for an hour at least, followed by dreams of horrible houses.
The only thing that seems to help is realising I can't control this and it's...
I had worked in direct care. Got beyond frustrated with employees, bosses, and all their drama and their different set of rules for the client home I worked at. I quit today. But I almost got arrested because, when I called the police when no one was coming to relieve me of my shift (I'd called other employees, but they were all in overtime), the police thought I was going to leave the client home just because I said I was angry and wanted to leave (that would be grounds for arrest for abuse and neglect, since I was the only person on staff at the home). Well, I knew I couldn't actually leave until someone showed up, which is why I called police after others weren't responding to my requests to relief. Still, I got scared at the mere mention of possible arrest, so I hit myself and appeared very weird before the policewoman.
Not sure what to do at this point. I wonder if I should ever seek employment again. I had some good jobs in direct care, and at substitute teaching, in...
And I don't mean 'omg, I aced this test'-happy or I just got asked out by this hot guy/girl-happy. Or anything along these lines.
I mean HAPPY, you know, like it's always portrayed on TV or in books (well, until the ultimate tragedy hits!!! ), or like those friend couples you know who are so in love and so happy, it makes you nauseous!
For me, happiness has always been but fleeting moments, few and far in between!!
I don't even think I know anymore what that really means and I'd sure be grateful for some explanations.
No matter what happened in my life there was something holding back that darn happiness, anybody else?!
I would love some advice, I'm in a bit of a sticky situation with one of my friends (I'll call her BB). I'm the maid of honor for her wedding, and so (understandably!) she has been asking me to help out with quite a lot. There have been a couple issues:
1. My mother has a terminal illness and has been in and out of the hospital for the past couple months. I'm suffering extremely with this, and BB doesn't seem to understand its impact on me. She keeps expecting me to focus on her.
2. I am getting married myself, the timing of which has to do with my mother's illness. I want the (very small) day to be about my and my partner's immediate family, and BB doesn't seem to understand this. She cried when I didn't take her wedding dress shopping (only my mum went with me, it was an incredibly special experience for me), and she keeps inserting herself into the day. She wants to get ready with me, her hair and makeup done, etc etc.
3. She doesn't seem to ever recognize that I'm...
Some of you may have heard about the man who was dragged, unconscious and bleeding off a United Airlines plane by security. He had done nothing wrong; the only thing that happened was that United Airlines decided to force some passengers off, due to a combination of overbooking and their own employees needing to travel, and he said he could not give up his seat. Several details have left me wondering whether he could be on the autistic spectrum. For example, his sharp scream when security...
My oldest son apparently was a classic Asperger's case, but I never knew! I had never heard of Asperger's when he was growing up, doctors never asked the right questions like they do now and I struggled with him his whole life, trying to talk to him in the way I knew he'd understand and try to explain every situation before and after, and just attending to and accommodating him as best I could without even knowing there was anything different about him.
I guess the fact that I was an undiagnosed Aspie myself helped in me being 'in tune' with how he feels and what he needs.
Anyway, our relationship had been so great until maybe he became 15 or so, when he just started becoming more and more disrespectful to me and his father.
He managed to completely alienate his 20 months younger brother, they barely have a relationship anymore !
Sometimes I would try to talk to him to make him understand how bad his behavior affected all of us, I would talk until my voice went and...nothing!...
I would like to know:
1) Has anyone been fired because they followed the rules?
2) If so, how does a person escape the double-bind and find a balance between following the rules, yet disregarding them enough to keep a job?
I can't go to my employer and ask: " How many of your rules do you want me to break so I can keep my job?"
maybe someone may get a laugh out of this.
Sooo casually sitting with my husband and Mother in law (who is VERY Catholic, and why that's important will soon be obvious) and I turn to my husband, Josh and say " will you wrap me up in a blanket like a burrito?" Trying and failing to be all cutesy. Now I of course take most things literally, but have been trying to notice jokes here and there. Keep in mind, Josh has a colorful sense of humor. Anyway he rolls his eyes at mummy dear who laughs at my horrible attempt at "pay me attention." He turns to me and says " but we don't have enough beans" and then it's like a red mist descends. Ok he smirking, is this one of his usual innuendos? I'm suddenly like a deer in headlights and my mind is in overdrive. Before I even stop to think, I blurt out, "I don't think I need te***cles in my burrito!" At the very same time I say this my mother in law bites into her Hawaiian bbq and almost chokes, sending a piece of beef flying across the room. I...
This topic been on my mind for a while, does having intelligence make it difficult connecting with people? To a degree, I think it can be depending on the person personality.
Many people don't get me as I normally can find a better ways to do things.
Some of these people like taking the easy way out. However, I'm not that type of person which can result into more conflicts connecting with people.
Depending on the person intelligence could lead them to great opportunities and potentially make a great income. But still, while the person can make great contribution to society, they can't really relate to society to a social level. Like myself. All employers I worked for know I do a dam great job developing software. But when it comes to clients social events, I just can't connect to anyone at all. During break and lunch time for last year event, I did everything I can to hide so I don't need to speak to anyone.
For new or existing people I meet, I could have an idea that can...
How long does it take to get used to wearing glasses? I just picked up my first pair of prescription glasses and being age 45 I'm starting with progressive lenses. Will I ever get used to these things? The distortion from moving side to side is suppose to go away as you adjust but the amount of detail is a bit overwhelming. I can see every little everything. And then there is the thing of having them on my head all day. Just constantly sitting on my nose.
I don't know if my sensory issues are going to make this impossible or not. Anyone have any problems? The only people I know to ask have no sensory issues.
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