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I'm 29 years old and I have yet to enter a relationship. It's not that I haven't wanted it; I've wanted a girlfriend since the 1st grade. I had an abusive father and an overbearing mother. I was picked on in childhood for being fat and weird. Every friend I've ever had has either moved away, stopped talking to me or simply outgrown me. With every woman I've pursued I was placed firmly in the friend-zone.
2016 was by far the worst year of my adult life. I lost the last friend I had, I was again unsuccessful in moving out of my parents' house, I was fired from two jobs and I'm still unable to find any substantial work (and I have a Bachelor's degree). I've been depressed since I was 13, and it hit new lows in 2016. I woke up every morning thinking "What's the point of going on?". Life has lost all meaning for me, and I want to end it. Sometimes I cut and hit myself, just to snap myself out of a suicidal tailspin for a few minutes. I've had a few instances where I had a mental break...
Watch out, I'm medicinin' all up in here.
I suffered terribly with my Midlife Meltdown, and I didn't even know I was an Aspie. While it was a great relief to discover what was going on, and I am proud to be one, it was a bit of a shock to discover that medical science could do very little for me; even though I was in bad shape.
The best advice I got was from my long-suffering gem of a General Practitioner doctor here in the States. While he never could figure out what was going on (and I don't blame him: when a doctor looks at a middle-aged woman in the throes of a hellish menopause, someone with good eye contact, verbal fluency, and a job where she deals with the public, it's about the last thing he'd think.) He said I was under great stress, and anything I could do to address that stress would help me out. With this in mind, I improved my sleep, started stress management strategies, and discovered niacin.
Most people know it as Vitamin B3, and think all we need to...
Because my husband is a huge hugger and I have learned to accept his hugs and up to a certain point, get a sense of warmth from it; not all the time though, he is the only one I can hug ( which, of course is great)
Anyway, what I find difficultly with regarding hugs, is the absolute embarrassment factor, of being encased in someone's arms in front of everyone else and I am ashamed to say that I think: oh my goodness me, what the heck do I look like, crunched up like this and cannot wait to untangle myself.
I do not hug people; I tend to just put one hand lightly on their shoulder, to denote that I care with what they are going through; I can be empathetic sometimes, but that is mostly with the sense of knowing the person is sincere in their distress.
Ironically enough, I have got used to the French way of greeting ones. It happens so fast, that it is ok, but hugs tend to last longer and I really HATE it when the person swoops down upon me!
When I am hurt over a situation of...
Don't know if this is an aspie/autie difficulty, or if my perception of the world makes me suspicious of everyone. Have a difficult time accepting compliments or positive input, it somehow makes me nervous. Or is this low self-esteem, related to having received few positive interactions in childhood. What do you think? Do you react this way to people indicating to you that you did something well?
When I get anxious or hyper focused, I bite my nails/inside of my mouth. Both are unsightly and biting my lip can cause cancer. I desperately want to stop. Does anyone have any insights/recommended fidgets? I'm on a budget here and would like it to be discreet though as I go to a mainstream school. Thanks!
(Please don't suggest horrible tasting nail paint- I cook a lot and it transfers to the food)
OK, so you know how it has been hell in the gym. They are playing that screeching music loud, so loud it drowns out your ipod. After being there, I felt like I wanted to scream and once I hit sensory overload WHILE THERE and melted down. remember, this was my safe place so it's extra horrible for me. Part of my routine and safe!! Not now.
So I contacted the CEO and branch manager and spilled my guts with a very well put together letter which was not slamming or raving. It explained I have a head injury with neuro sequelae predicated on autism and explained that the trouble with sensory over load extends to and other neuro disorders. And the eldery generally have a trouble with that crap.
I then asked if it would be possible to offer quiet times for those who cannot tolerate that constant bombardment of music that can throw us into sensory overload. I mentioned how many cases of head injuries a year and how there are increasing cases of autism.
I also offered, if they did...
I am new here, but I am sincerely needing some guidance.
I have been in a confusing relationship with an aspie man. Despite the confusion, I really have come to love him a great deal, and need some help determining the right path.
We grew up in the same small town, but were out of touch for 20 years. We reconnected in a place 1000 miles from where we grew up. We had both been through the ringer as far as relationships went. He was looking for work *everywhere* and I had little expectation that we had much in common. We decided it was a good set of circumstances to try a FWB thing.
Trouble was we became (what I thought) was incredibly close friends, with a real potential to be a great relationship for us both. We started making plans together to do different projects when the happy/terrible call came and he got a job roughly 16 hour drive away, in another country. It was heartbreaking..
But we didnt let go of each other. We continued to talk daily, text all day, and...
I was wondering if Christianity accepts buddhism because from my understanding is that a christian do not accept graven images and worshiping idols. So if a buddhist pay respect to a figure/image/person praying then isn't this going against christianity?
I don't believe it but there is a lot of info going on that Jesus was a buddhism monk.
I am asking this because I heard people with autism have a different processing system in their brain and I wanted another autistic perspective.
Not to mention I have adhd and like the attention of others opinions.
I'm just curious, but why do so many who claim to be autistic (or an "Aspie") like cats as well? I don't understand it, what's the attraction? I myself have never really been all that attracted to them (it must have something to do with my robotic, Sheldonesque lack of empathy).
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