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My birthday passed recently. I spent it alone and was happy to do so. I was given a couple well wishes from people but as usual I did not receive any gifts. I haven't received a single gift in the last five years or more.
This didn't bother me before except that I've noticed I always give gifts to family and people I've known for a long time. I make sure to send some type of gift on birthdays, mother's day, and other holidays. But I might get a late card for my birthday and that's it.
Although, I give gifts even though I'm on a tight budget because I thought that was a nice, kind thing to do. They aren't expensive gifts. But I do it because it shows that I'm thinking of the person and that I care. I also thought that it's something everyone does.
Now I'm wondering after so many years if I'm missing something? Is there some type of social or gift etiquette that I'm not aware of? Or could this lack of reciprocation be a sign that I'm not well liked or respected by the people I...
Has anyone considered something like Internet PenPals or the like?
I'm asking this because, considering I struggle to talk to others in real life and also struggle with forming and maintaining friendships, I've recently made accounts on a couple of PenPal sites I've found through Google. However, I'm beginning to wonder: is this a good/effective way to form friendships and meet new people?
I'm mostly directing this question at others here who've tried something like this in the past (or currently are) and about their experiences with it, or suggest it to people here who have social struggles like myself. They say talking to people through the Internet is the easiest form of communication, after all. Or something like that anyway...
Also, I apologize if this is in the wrong category or if the subject was brought up and discussed before. I know this isn't an excuse, but I'm still pretty new here and this is only my second post ever since I signed up on this forum (the first...
All over my facebook I am seeing people complain about fiddle cubes, spinners etc but why. Since fiddle toys have come on to the mainstream market they are getting a lot of bad press. I always have a fiddle toy such as a tangle or snake with me to stop me scratch my hands and keep my anxiety at bay. However since the fidget cube phone on people have been making negative comments about my use of them.
Anyone else experienced this or just me.
Hey all, this is my first post. My ex is an aspie, unfortunately I did not learn this till after our second split. The first split he stop talking to me because I pushed for an answer as to what we were. After 3 ignored texts over 6 months, we started talking again.
Things were going well we were casual but it was obvious we cared about one another. I had a scary health issue and was upset that he wanted to talk about work and didn't appear to care about my health. I was angry and said some mean things then told him he never has to call me back. A few weeks later my health worsened and my friend texted him to let him know (without my permission). He subsequently changed his number.
I get that he's upset and doesn't want to have anything to do with me. I would have reacted differently if I knew he was an aspie (a mutual aquaintence informed me after the altercation). There is no way of predicting the future and I don't want a romantic relationship anymore because it's not...
This happens ALL THE TIME in my family. If something important comes up, either no one tells me, I have to ask them myself if I suspect something; or they wait until the last minute to tell me. Yesterday was a prime example of such things, most notably the fact that because both of my brothers were at work, Mom decided I'd be on my own for dinner, but she didn't tell me. She stayed upstairs and had leftovers while I stayed in my room until 7. Sometimes we have dinner around 6:30 instead of 6 so I didn't think much of it at first, but when I noticed it was almost 7, I suspected that something was up. I heard the TV on upstairs and my dad come home, no clattering of dishes, no one calling me, so I figured everything out and just didn't have dinner. Today I brought that up to Mom and she just started yelling at me, claiming the reason she didn't tell me was that she had leftovers and I don't care for leftovers.
How hard would it have been for her to either come down or e-mail me...
In my diagnosis, my evaluator noted that I walked a lot on my tiptoes, even in heels. I toe-walk, or tip-toe, all the time. It's very comfy. I have high arches, so it's easy. It's a relaxing way to walk.
Well, naturally, I get curious and look up this thing -- and among various wild speculations by clinicians who would rather come up with their own theories instead of ask us -- it's considered part of a weak vestibular system, or dyspraxia, or other "bad" thing.
It's funny because Jon Niednagel, the guy who is trying to find neuroscientific evidence for his "Brain Type" observations, says that ENFP and INFP types are prone to toe-walking (and neither of these types are among the more typical self-reported Myers-Briggs types for autism or Aspergers, who usually test as introverts or thinkers, especially INTJ, INTP, and ENTP, types that Niednagel says are naturally weaker in gross motor body balance).
I dunno what to make of all this. People will have what theories and...
Last night I was in a horrible fight with my stepfather that lasted the whole day. He was nice enough however to give me his last two sleeping pills and send me to bed.
But this morning as I missed work I thought, since everyones still asleep, it'd just be more trouble for them if I stuck around and continued to make things worse. I used to be their firstborn son, but now I am a detrimental drain on them. When my mother brought me my food last night I apologized for being a horrible son and she said nothing. That put the nail in the coffin for me right there.
I've got a backpack packed up with all my stuff except for some food and water which im about to get front the kitchen in a few minutes. I hate to do this to my family especially my 7 year old sister who loves me to death, but if I don't do something soon we might not be a family much longer.
Im not even ready to live on my own I don't even have any money in my wallet and i don't know how im going to keep up with my job....
Anyone else have this problem? I need my covers to sleep but it's so hot and humid I can't have them on me without feeling like I'm suffocating... I won't be able to fall asleep until I'm completely exhausted usually 6-10 hours after I should of went to sleep near when I would like to wake up.
Oh one of those nights I really, really wish I could do a couple shots. Boo
I am not looking forward to summer, it's already been pushing 90° -._-.
Hi, I was just wondering if anyone could help me with ideas for something small and cheap to invest in to keep my fingers busy.
Im constantly fiddling and fidgeting my fingers when im anxious (which is most the time), Eg, scraping and scratching my hands with my claws until it bleeds, separating my skin from under nails.
Your suggestions will be muchly appreciated, something i can take with me in public mostly.
Hello, I am looking for a group of people that have an awareness and understanding of their conditions and are willing to try an exercise that could possibly unlock their social ques. I want to share an awaking that I've experienced and want people to have that joy. What if I was to say there is a possibility to help or at least alleviate the problems with aspergers such as lack of social ques and development with people to the point that you might be able to experience what it's like to be neurotypical in social situations. Like many of you, I suffered aspergers but I've somehow figured a way out and be able to become apart of society- but I need more people to who are willing to help me replicate result and give me a feedback. If this works, this could potentially solve a lot of issues such as socially awkwardness and maybe answer why to the phenomenon of why people lack the social ques associated with some disorders.
We know people that have aspergers have higher activity...
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