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I'm staying with my brother in a major U.S. city. For the past 12 years, we've barely spoken, mostly because of life and living far apart. We were young and care free and without responsibilities. A lot has changed since then. We are now adults, and in that time apart is when I was diagnosed with Aspergers. Needless to say, we are very different people. He is neurotypical, outgoing, extroverted. I'm not. Obviously.
We're butting heads because he doesn't "get it." He says I never say thank you or ask how his day went or how he's doing. I tell him that I'm sorry, I just didn't think of it, and that I do care. He says I don't show it.
He says I never talk to his partner or his friends, and that they find me awkward and being around me is awkward. I told him sorry, I just have poor social skills. I'm a listener, not a talker. He told me to get over it and start talking.
He says I never get out and do things. I told him I'm sorry, I don't understand the public transportation system,...
I am wondering what you thought of yourselves before you knew you had autism?
I was born into a religious family, so around 12, I was sure I was evil. The meltdowns were scary and I interpreted them through my religious beliefs. This was a huge burden for a kid and everyone kept telling me to give it to God and he would take. He sure did not take and did not even let me know what the trouble was!
After that a shrink convinced me that there was no god and that I was just mentally ill. Then a lot more shrinks said I was mental and I had so many dx's that some even contradicted one another. It got to be absurd. No single person could have the number of dx's I had. It was a joke.
Then I came full circle and thought there was a God again and he clearly hates me. No way that I would have gone through everything I did and there NOT be a god behind. Some seemed perfectly engineered to torment an autie, weird things, and the hits just kept coming with zero down time between them....
I'm talking about the one aspect of you that might help other people the most, however you choose to define it.
Imagine no restrictions, nothing holding you back.
What would you supreme power be?
I get business ideas and invention ideas, often very regularly, and have obsessive focus on them.
Tell me about how you like your clothing.
Ever since I was a child, I always preferred soft things and neutral urban colour pallettes (e.g. blue, grey, tan, white, black). I'd go through stores and run my hands over the different materials. Nowadays I tend to stick with button-up shirts or t-shirts. But having no continuity in the brands I own continually bothers me. Such as if there are two black shirts but one is made of thinner clingy material and the other is a sturdy soft cotton.
Anyway, does anyone else have particular kinds of clothes they prefer or dislike? I'd heard it was common among people with ASDs, but never asked because I don't personally know anyone aside from myself that is on the spectrum.
It is well known that we excel at finding patterns in things. Whether it's algebraic structure, musical patterns or programming we tend to naturally pick them up easily There is also a great chunk of us who find ordering or categorising things to be incredibly satisfying.
Not much springs to mind in the things I have done. However I can think of two things, one is cable management with electronics. Like this one below. I could look at images of these for hours.
In case you didn't realise this is not my own work. But I did recently sorted out all the numerous cables on my room for various machines like my PC, stereo system, my N64 and PlayStations with long black elastic sleeves. It looks a lot better now.
The other one was doing lacing styles on my shoes. Here's one I did, I also commented with this on another thread. Unique styles are very appealing to me. A neat style is the best. The style below is called Lattice lacing. I also like the Straight Bar style and have them on my...
Life is so interesting. I wasn’t a typical little girl. The kind who sits around dreaming of her wedding day. The kind of girl who had every detail for her big day completely picked out. In fact, I was the kind of girl who knew I wanted to have a partner, but never put much weight into marriage. As I grew older, and my friends started getting married I saw the reason why so many choose that path. The need for companionship is so overwhelming at times for some people. I was finding myself being one of those people who was longing for a deeper connection, a life partner, but not having the ability to obtain it. It is very telling to me now that I know about my autism. I know that I personally couldn’t have had a traditionally successful marriage or partnership when I was younger because I didn’t understand myself, or my place in the world. I didn’t know that I wasn’t broken and unfixable. I didn’t know that I could be my authentic self, and that someone would be able to...
Can this be true? Is this just bad science? If this is true, the mortality rate is higher than schizophrenia.
Premature autism deaths are 'hidden crisis' says charity
Hi. Well, it's another holiday alone. You would think I would get used to it, eh? I think the trauma of trying in the NT world makes this so hard, all those people who have hurt me having such a nice day.
Not a SINGLE acquaintance or "friend" even sent me a card or even so much as twiddled their fingers over a keyboard to send an email. And yes, I HAVE done that many times. Two years ago, it was about 25 cards I sent out and also emails. I got two rersponses. So last year, I did none because I got the picture. I wondered if anyone would remember me. No one.
So this year? F*ck it. I am not feeling sorry for myself. I just wish to GOD I HAD NEVER TRIED because now it hurts more than ever.
So you all of you who know how I am feeling and are also alone: MERRY CHRISTMAS, HAPPY HANUKKAH, KOOL KWANZAA, SUPER SATURNALIA, and hugs to you though I cannot give them
Thank you guys for being here and being supportive. Now I am going to self soothe with some colouring books.
I know there are NTs who visit this site and I would please ask any NT not to vote in this survey. I have a theory on handedness in individuals with ASD/Aspergers. So left and right handedness are pretty self explanatory. Ambidextrous means you are equally comfortable using either hand in all tasks. Mix handedness is something I can describe in the context of myself. I write, throw almost everything, use a fork, lift things up, etc. with my left hand. There are a couple of things I use my right hand for; playing an instrument, throwing a Frisbee. In those tasks my left hand feels as foreign to me as my right does in most tasks. The only thing I would be ambidextrous in is playing tennis; although I strongly favor my left. So I'm mostly left handed but a little right handed. If you fall into this group choose mixed handedness, (for me mixed handedness, dominant left).
A definition of cross handedness/mixed handedness from wikipedia:
"Cross-dominance, also known as mixed-handedness,...
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