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So, I joined AC several months ago in hopes of finding some insights that might benefit my relationship (which I have for sure). I am a mostly NT (I have some tendencies towards the spectrum, and some other quirks and oddities, but that's it), dating an aspie. We have been together for 6 years, and normally I am able to figure out why he does and says some of the things that he does that don't make sense to me. Our relationship is unconventional and most of my NT friends and family don't get it or approve, but we make it work. Right now, though, I am having a hard time understanding where he is coming from and I am hoping that you guys can help me out.
The current situation is thus: we have been apart for a year now, due to him moving to the east coast (of the US) from California for a job opportunity. We were able to spend time together over Christmas, but that has been all. It has been unpleasant and difficult, but we have hung in there. I do not have the funds to move out there...
I have a history of laughing when I really shouldn't be laughing. For example - whenever my parents would read to me. Dad would read me a serious fiction story about a man trying to hunt down a giant worm, but all I thought about was the man and the worm becoming friends and living in a gigantic house together - so instead of paying attention I just laughed. Dad didn't like it and eventually he just stopped reading me that book. Mom would read a story to me about a boy named Dennis, yet for some reason I kept picturing the name Dennis being equivalent to the name Daniel - so in my mind I kept chanting "Daniel!" and just laughing. She eventually stopped reading that to me for, hmmmm, the same reason. I just feel so bad about this; who knows, if only I didn't freaking laugh and let my folks read stories to me in peace I could have had a better zest for reading right now. I hate myself so much for doing this.
Another example (as if the one above isn't enough), around the same times....
I've been pondering this for a while now, and I've come to the conclusion that while I do love my boyfriend and wish I were able to live in harmony with him, it seems as unrealistic a wish as tying pillowcases to my arms and jumping out the window hoping I'll manage to fly.
My need for quietness, a certain routine and alone time is just so strong that it is incompatible with being a live-in girlfriend or wife. And it's really me, not him: I've tried to put myself in the other perspective, and I think it would be perceived as very cruel for anyone, even if they understand why I need this much space and me-time, to ask of them that they agree to leave me alone, let me sleep alone, cook alone, all while avoiding things that can make me snap or meltdown (and let's be honest here, I snap all the time. And if I try to control that, then I have a meltdown from suppressing too much of everything).
So I've been thinking perhaps we should go back to living apart; and this has nothing to do...
This post is for anyone wants to openly share the type of addictions they have. My only rule is not judging someone over type of addictions they have.
I know one of my biggest addictions is my collecting toys including doll figures. It started last year when I got this current full time job. Every week at my local comic book store to look for something new to add to my collection. Below is some of the collection I have.
A few weeks ago I joined a new site of people collect dolls and action figures. Most of my life now is based on that site. I can view 1000's of photos of people collection every day. They have over 1.5 million photos so it something that will keep me busy for some time.
I had many comment I should give up this type of collection. However, I have no interest listening to anyone for this type of request.
Got an email about an hour ago on my Hotmail account from Mojico.co.uk, they want me to attend an interview based on my CV, which they have through Totaljobs.co.uk website! I think it's a sales position through an Agency, so I may or may not get it, but heck, I have an interview based on a CV I created myself, that's good news innit?
Now I just have to hit the clothes shops in Meadowhall to find something to wear that will fit me, normally I'd have something made from Ashley Rogers' at Manor Top but it's too short notice and too expensive up there.
Yay! Go me! Obviously I can't get too overexcited, there's a possibility I might not get the job due to the limited hours I can work because I can't come off benefits, but we'll see.
I have had a pretty successful career so far. But I am stuck with a current situation.
Got a new boss a couple years ago. Things have never been great. I make more than he does -- or so he tells me -- and we have never clicked. He talks **** about me to other employees in the company.
He recently sent an e-mail in which he suggested plainly that I lied to him on a matter that is trivially verifiable. (Basically, did I take some required training.) He's not stupid, so he knows he could have just called the training group in our company and asked. He's not lazy, so it's not that he couldn't generate an e-mail. No, this seems like a completely unprofessional pissy snark thing. A cheap shot due to some unvoiced frustration. And from my boss, which is entirely dangerous.
The thing is, I take my integrity seriously. If I don't have a receipt for a business expense, I eat the cost rather than start any perception of shenanigans. I am BOILING MAD and am fighting emotions of...
Hey everyone! I am unsure weather or not anyone else gets this but i will ask. Sometimes, i feel sensations in my body, perhaps a form of sensory overload? I get them when confronted with a veery distressing situation. This will be embarrasing but i feel almost like a tingling in my anus area, in my tummy, weird feeling in my arms, ect. I used to thing it may have been a good thing so i went ahead with doing the stressful thing and as it turned out it got worse...i felt the need to vomit, i would flip out and have a massive meltdown.. like i did 3 days ago while mowing the lawn. It seems to happen as soon as the idea of something destressing or truamatic pops into my head. Any help <3?
So... I recently went to a self-defense workshop that was 3 and 1/2 hours long. You weren't allowed to wear tanktops, just T-shirts. We worked in groups of three and there were lots of people in a small-ish gym/dojo. I was getting along really well with my group and at the end I was putting my stuff away and one of my group members came up to me and said, "Hey, great working with you! By the way, um, awkward, but you might want to check number five on the rules." She smiled the whole time and then bolted out the door. Confused, I checked the rules, and number five said to maintain a good hygiene. Yikes. I came in in clean clothes, deodorized, and I shower regularly. My other friend heard the whole thing and I was completely embarrassed.
I have Asperger's syndrome and am weak in my nose, but I also did everything a typical person does to stay hygienic. Also, it was 3 and 1/2 hours of physical activity in a crowded room. I feel like being a little stinky at the end is normal. I'm so...
I’m wondering if anyone else is bothered or annoyed by this or if I’m just weird in this regard, but I don’t see the point in saying good morning to the same people day after day.
I’m not talking about a stranger I’ve seen on the street and end up saying “Morning” to. I’m not even talking about co-workers that require a morning greeting as some sort of status check.
No, I’m talking about the people I live with. The people I see every single day and who want me to give a greeting as soon as I see them.
When I was a kid, I had to say good morning to my family or they would get offended that I hadn’t greeted them. I couldn’t get up each day and when I saw a family member, just start a talking to them. No! I had to say some sort of morning greeting first.
This always bothered me but I didn’t understand why it bugged me so much. This still happens now even though I live with other people. There’s still this unspoken rule of the “good morning ritual.”
I just don’t see the point in...
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