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Hey.....I need some advice
It's been a month since he decided to break up with me and I am a mess. My mental state has been degrading daily.
He is friendly to me and we talk, but never about us. One day last week we accidentally met on the cycling lane, but he basically ran away and afterwards sent me a message apologizing for not knowing what to say.
I would so much like to tell him I'd want to try again, this time with better coping strategies and improved communication about ourselves and our needs, but I am terrified of another rejection. This is ****ing me up. And no, letting go is not an option. I still want him and I don't think he wanted to leave me. He spoke of exhaustion and depression, not about not loving me.
I am stuck and feel like crying all the time.
People come to Aspie Central regularly, looking for advice on how to navigate or save their relationships with people they suspect or know may be on the spectrum.
Quite often their difficulties are similar and their grievances about aspie/nt relationships have a familiar pattern to them. Some aspies find conflict and emotional connections nightmarish in the long term. In that they don't consider them as necessary as n/t's do.
They consider the problems of emotional neediness something they have little familiarity with. Once the 'honeymoon' period in a relationship is over and they have returned to ordinary life, they don't comprehend the overwhelming requirement's of n/t's to continue on with the professions of love and constant reaffirmation.
As far as some people on the spectrum are concerned they have proven their love, care, vows, promises, and they have no need to reiterate what is already obvious to them on a daily basis.
In relationships with neurotypicals what do...
I was diagnosed at the age of 10. Just in time before I hit those 'teenage' years. I know many stories will be different. For me, I had a twin brother without AS, and me and him always shared the same friends during our teenage years. But sometimes he had his own group he would hang out with and I had mine with people who had learning and social disorders.
My therapist said my AS is very, very, mild to almost unnoticeable. But that didn't stop me from being shy around people at the age of 10-13. By the age of 13-16, I would get into fights a whole lot with other kids in school. By age 16-till now, I would say I considered my self 'normal' with a few exceptions such as I don't make too much eye contact and sometimes I talk real low. But overall, I can now talk to people if needed without them talking to me first.
So what was it like with you having friends growing up with AS? I want to know. Did things change over time as you got older? Did you have a lot of friends or only a...
I get worried a lot of the time about whether I am perceived as beautiful/conventionally attractive. I have a theory this relates to my (mild) Aspergers and not being able to "read" other people, but I don't know. Does anyone have similar thoughts? I'd love to hear what other people think. Thanks for reading!
This probably won't bode well for any student with a disability, let alone anyone on the spectrum. A highly questionable appointment and from a relatively neutral and long-time revered media source.
Forget the politics. This is simply someone patently unqualified for such high office, regardless of her personal wealth.
"DeVos demonstrates no knowledge of or appreciation for the laws that protect students with disabilities."
I've been battling with this issue since I've started to become more vocal about my differences due to being on the spectrum.
Recently one of my good friends snapped at me saying that I'm delusional for feeling different and that everyone goes through it at some point ..(even though I've been feeling this way since childhood).
I've also had people tell me that I waste time over analyzing things even when I try to explain that I just notice different details to them and it doesn't take as much effort as it seems.
Does anyone else get put down for their differences? How have others dismissed you for them?
I'm feeling quite defensive and angry that others are being so ignorant towards such a personal thing.
I am too curious for my own good. I get that urge to look up things that upset me. Or, in this case, infamous shock sites/videos. Before you ask: No. Haven't been to any except one close call back in public school.
My recent obsession is the legendary "Daisy's Destruction". If you tell me about something gruesome, I'll be interested. Where The Dead Go To Die, Cannibal Holocaust, Last House On The Left...
This is in NO way for my pleasure. I'm actually afraid of myself, my curiosity, my impulses...And I need help admitting this to Mom.
Hello everyone ,
This is my first post and I am looking for advice on certain aspects of my relationship with my Aspie partner. A little intro to our couple : I am a NT woman who is in a long-term relationship with an (undiagnosed) Aspie man. We have been together for almost 5 years and just started living together in May 2016. We care for each other very much! I am currently completing my Doctor's degree in psychology and aiming to become a professional clinician. He works in information technology. He is very high functioning and from first meeting him most people would not guess he is on the spectrum. He is bright, funny, honest, loyal, and can even be very tender and affectionate at times. I am curious, energetic, and sensitive. Unlike what I have come to understand about most aspie-NT relationships, we have a very fulfilling and intimate sexual life. However, unsurprisingly, many of our problems lie in communicating and emotional intimacy. I am having trouble adjusting to...
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