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Does anyone else do this?
I like to play a song in my head and focus into getting all the little details right so that I can enjoy. This leads to me going into focus and not focusing on the outside world. I might play a few songs in my head when I'm on the train or something. For instance, I would play a metal song, "Through the Fire and Flames," in my head in as much detail as possible, trying to get in all the guitar strums, lyrics, and drum beats I can remember / focus on. This can get enjoyable when I get really into it; I can get the goosebumps occasionally from this. Often times I can't focus well enough to play the song well (probably because I'm tired), but every now and then I can play a song pretty vividly.
Judging from reading (and responding to) AspiesCentral, it seems there is a need to boost those NeuroTypical contributions to advise, and NUDGE (when necessary) to encourage understanding on the many important topics that too often "get lost in the shuffle!"
I got thinking this from another thread, and wondered if it's common.
I don't mind playing sport (I don't love it though), but I can't see any point in watching it and I never have.
I used to watch motor racing, but I think that was because of the bikes and the cars and the noise they make, and I've got into foot ball matches but only if I care about the outcome, EG national team in the world cup finals, or the few times I've bet on sports.
When I have watched it I notice that my mimicking skills don't work, and the things I say to other spectators obvious stand out as quite weird.
I tried talking to my ex so as to get some insight into his thoughts, but to no avail.
I told him I would like to understand how he could go from all that seemingly deep affection to treating me like dirt and making me feel like a stranger; I tried inquiring about what made him uncomfortable; I tried asking him about his needs. Calmly, in writing. The reply I got? "You don't need to understand anything".
How am I supposed to deal with this? Every attempt I make to communicate is pointless.
The Dr who refered me to the Autism centre contact me. They were appalled and so very affirming to me and said that was totally unfair. She got the report and said it was wrong.
She is refering me to a collegue who will help to find a more accurate Dx. She said I am not harmful and never hurt anyone. I was in tears. I have been isolated since that screening.
I will update you all . I am exhausted. One day TBI, next autism, next just plain nuts, next not nuts, next neuro troubles, next...........these things cause a person a tremendous amount of distress, more than the accident did.
I am very glad I found you guys. Even if I am not autie (which I still may be a tad), I am certainly not NT, so you understand me more than other people do. THANK YOU FOR being here.
^i found this post while searching for autism blogs and it was quite thought provoking for me although i didnt agree with it.
the writer thinks its a bad idea to self diagnose with anything including autism and is quite ranty and certain about it, aparently shes a pyschology student from what i can make out- typically many of them think theyre qualified shrinks when they become a student of the profession.
do you think self diagnosis of autism is wrong and causes trouble for people who diagnosed? i dont agree with her.
people who are autistic but undiagnosed are usually good researchers and have the logical mind to detatch themselves from the traits and difficulties in order to self diagnose,so i take people who self diagnose with autism in the same way i take people diagnosed,ive only come across one person in the 15 odd years of being in the online autism and disability community; who had self diagnosed and ended up diagnosed with something else that i cant...
I hate advertising, it's full of lies, stupidity, annoyances, manipulations and dumb jokes that drive me crazy.
I'm going to rewrite some of the worst offenses here:] Feel free to make up your own. Or you can simply point out the illogical stupidity of them, or all.
'Don't leave home without it' : Can't think of a rebuttal to this one?
'What's in your wallet?' : Money
Mm Mm Good : Not really, it's salty and awful.
Does she or doesn't she?: Dye her hair or have sex?
It's the real thing: Real brown sugar water.
A diamond is forever: So is herpes.
So basically I have HFA. I'm very good at hiding it. Like insanely good. No one would ever guess. But I've noticed that I really enjoy conflict, especially winning arguments. Now I say arguments but what I really mean is how other people tend to get into a verbal "roasting match" with each other. I've heard that most aspies tend to be less aggressive but for me it couldn't be more further from the truth. I'm not physically aggressive although I can if I want to be. I just tend to be good at finding people's mental weak points and exploiting them in an argument just to watch them crumple and retreat into themselves and it feels wonderful. However I only really do this when someone has rubbed me up the wrong way I don't go out of my way just to find the easiest target. In fact the stronger the better. Thoughts?
Hello...I could really use some help in understanding how Aspies specifically feel love. My ex and I are in a place of trying to figure out if we should try to work things out or not, however, one issue seems to keep coming up and that's the differences in the way we feel love for each other.
To me, love feels like a warm intense feeling deep within you for the other person. A feeling of being drawn to the other person which creates a feeling of connectedness. A tenderness in your heart for them....
Where we differ is he doesn't understand the notion of feeling love "within" or "inside". Or even what I mean when I say "deep feelings". He thinks feelings are feelings and doesn't understand variation in intensity. He gets this very confused look on his face when I describe it this way, like it's completely abstract to him.
He says he loves me because he "cares what happens to me" and because he wants to do things for me (help me out financially, buy gifts, give flowers, take me to...
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