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Enquired about a level 1 games design and creative media course at Sheffield College via their website earlier, it says on the course blurb that it's for "school leavers" with a Million GCSEs, therefore at 41 and having failed everything 2 Million years ago, could I still get on this course as a "mature student"?!
I am really interested in the subject you see, only downside is that the majority of game design software such as Unity, requires either a Windows PC or a Mac, neither of which I have, my PC is a Chromebook.
From Candidly Autistic:
To my friends on the spectrum, let me explain to you an unspoken social rule that possibly nobody has ever explained to you before
If a neurotypical asks you, “What game are you playing?” they’re not asking you to describe the game.
They’re asking you if they can play too.
If a neurotypical asks you, “What are you watching?” they’re not asking you to explain the plot of the movie/tv show to them.
They’re asking if they can watch it with you.
When neurotypicals ask you “What are you doing?”
What you think they’re asking: “Please explain to me what you are doing.”
What they’re actually asking: “Can I join you?”
Now here’s the really messed up part. If you start explaining to them what you’re doing? They will interpret that as a rejection.
What you think you’re saying: [the answer to their question]
What they think you’re saying: This is an elite and exclusive activity for a level 5 friend and you are a level 1 acquaintance. You are not qualified to...
All I could find was a seven year old discussion, my apologies if I'm beating a dead horse with this topic...
I grew up in a large city so I'm used to living around lots of people, now in my 40's, and I've always lived in a large city.
I get the sense that lots of Aspies tend to prefer small towns, or am I wrong?
Why do I like a big city? And I do live quite close to the downtown area... I enjoy arts and culture, the various events of all seasons (summer, fall, winter, spring), and as I enjoy street photography I do like the hustle and bustle.
Within my city there are lots of parks, natural areas and grass nearby the city centre, so an escape to a little nature isn't hard.
I am also surrounded on all sides by lots of open space, a few times a year I head out for trips onto the Canadian prairies, photography of course, once spent six days driving around rural Saskatchewan, camera in tow. I do enjoy these trips that get me away from the big city, but I love living the urban...
(Not written by me. Edited to remove the word "sufferers")
Why autistic people won't look others in the eye: Doing so causes individuals stress and makes them uncomfortable
People with autism often avoid eye contact with some saying it feels like burning
Scientists have used brain scans of autistic patients to back up their complaints
Researchers found eye contact overstimulates the brain of an autistic person
People with autism often avoid eye contact, with some complaining it feels like 'burning'.
Often other people think they are being shy or indifferent, or that it is a sign of social awkwardness.
But now researchers have used brain scans of autistic patients to back up their complaints that eye contact is stressful and uncomfortable for them.
Researchers at the Massachusetts General Hospital in the US found that eye contact overstimulates the brain of an autistic person.
Dr Nouchine Hadkikhani, author of the study, said: 'The findings demonstrate that, contrary to what...
In order for others to get to know a little bit more about those in this forum, I just wanted to ask everyone what their special interests or talents were? And so whether you have Aspergers Syndrome, Autism, or are a parent, caregiver or friend of one with such condition, or relate to the people here, please share something about you that makes you interesting and special.
In other words, what things are you either really good at, or have much fun with, or that you spend lots of time with because of ability, habit, love, or need? These talents and interests need not be unique, but commonly occurring in society, too, but if you have any different activities, talents or interests, please share those, too, no matter how usual. Thanks.
For me, I have many interests. I love writing, and analyzing. I also love self-help things, continually focusing on being my best. As well, I love practicing singing now, despite always prior fearing that. I am getting pretty good with that. My talent...
I'm new to the forums here. I've got something specific to ask, maybe your views will help me & others.
So, I'm a diagnosed aspie with an NT wife - a beautiful, passionate, strong and sexy lady who I've been fortunate enough to be married to for 11 years. Top that off with us having 4 children together! I'm a lucky guy
Recently, she's confided in me that she doesn't "feel loved" by me when we're intimate..... She says she KNOWS that I love her by my loyalty to her, the way I put her first, devote myself to our family, etc, but in the bedroom she's saying she doesn't "feel" loved by me, and she puts this down to me being aspie. (And she might be right!)
Now I KNOW I love her and am loving our time being intimate together, but as an aspie (and just as a man tbh) I'm sure that my love language is going to be different to hers.
Phsyically, she seems very happy intimately.... we're both physically satisfied after sex, her especially she says, and she's into a few verbal...
My general observation is that many people with Asperger's don't like being hugged. I might be among the minority in this aspect, but I love being hugged. Being hugged means that someone loves me, cares about me and appreciates me; I need that. A lot. Same thing with being kissed by someone like my mother on the forehead (one of my biggest quirks is that I always ask her to take off her glasses whenever she hugs and kisses me, and the same for when I'm about to kiss her on the forehead myself).
I do experience moments where I want to be left alone, period - but in the general case I really love it when someone hugs me or kisses me (and by kisses I obviously don't mean romantically, I've never been interested in that type of kissing). I tend to not hug people myself though, but being hugged just reminds me of the fact that there are people out there who truly care about me. It's a blessing, you know.
I'm just curious though, what makes most Aspies not like being hugged?
Hi, I've been having a lot of trouble with romantic relationships, mainly due to my seeming inability to be sexually attracted to anyone. At first, I thought I just had to find the right person, but now I realise it might be something more. I really want to be able to have a relationship with someone, and I suppose I've skipped out on many opportunities with decent guys because I can't seem to bring myself to be attracted to them the way they expect me to. I'm not sure if there's a way around this, or if all my chances at relationships are doomed because I can't even bring myself to think about sex let alone progress to the act. How can I fix this? All I really want is a meaningful relationship.
I've been out of education, employment or training for the past 2 years now. There is no way that I could get a job at this point, and I have tried to return to education several times now without success. This is a combination of both the fact I'm autistic and also other anxiety disorders such as social anxiety and PTSD.
Unfortunately, (without trying to get too political), the government have recently made a lot of cuts to disability benefits and especially specified that ATOS should discriminate against people with mental health issues.
For example someone who cannot walk and needs a wheelchair but can go out alone would get the mobility component whereas someone who cannot leave the house at all due to distress would not in most cases. I think this is completely wrong, mental disability is just as severe if not more as physical.
As far as the actual questions on the PIP form are concerned, I pretty much quality for everything as I suffer from executive dysfunction...
Every day, at around 2pm, there are three medications I have to take: one to keep my anxiety under control, one for acid reflux, and one that I'd rather not state the purpose of. I take them in the opposite order of how I listed them; I never take any of them together (I used to, but I don't now) and it's rarely in any other order than that.
On a related note, I frequently have to have a pile of folded towels or clothes sorted specifically from biggest to smallest, groceries in a cart at the grocery store have to be aligned just so, and I once spent thirty minutes washing a single dish because I could not, for the life of me, get rid of the miniscule scratches and abrasions on it that wouldn't have come off if you dropped a bomb on it.
At night, when we lock the screen and front doors, I'll frequently recheck it several times before actually going to bed because whether or not it had been locked repeatedly slips my mind. Even when it comes to writing, whether it be stories or a...
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