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I have always hated this expression: well, just think, others have it far worse than you, or something like that.
Well, since the end of last year, onwards, I have started to suffer extruiating lonliness and thought I had got past it, but nope, it came back, but always goes away, when my husband arrives home from work and many times that is a good hour of the day. But I was thinking with dismay, how am I going to get around this, because it is inevitable that I will be on my own, but as soon as he goes off to work, house has this sort of echo feeling and no amount of music has helped.
I have two sort of female friends and one is single; never been married and suffers from lonliness and the other lady is a widow but also suffers from time to time.
I was thinking how can I get through this awful feeling and then suddenly thought: yes, but at last you are not alone 24/24, you have someone who comes home; neither of these ladies have that relief; they have no choice but be on their...
Hi! I'm an aspie and also a researcher on autism. I am currently writing a research proposal for PhD program, and I would most happy to know what you want to see in future research. I am more of a qualitative researcher and I like to collect stories from many people, so I am thinking to take the same approach in PhD program, but is there anything you would like non-autistic people to know about being an autistic? Or is there any question you would love to have answer on? Love to hear from you guys!
What are people's opinions on this?
I know I can't expect a person with AS to act NT.
Talking to friends is hard as they don't understand AS.
I'm not with anyone now but thinking of my ex. We both have AS.
It simply didn't work out but I do miss him. I think I'm at a place now where I can be friends, while being open to getting back together (but things would have to be different) but also dating others with an open mind.
But yeh a quick chat with friends -since I do most of the initiating conversations and I'm the one saying let's talk about feelings they make me feel bad about the relationship. They doubt our connection and it makes me question if I'm being a doormat or if they just don't get that caring for someone with AS means changing your expectations.
I was at peace with the situation before, I find it hard to maintain boundaries when others project their expectations onto me.
well, we've been....
My Aspie partner and I (NT) went on our summer holiday, for two weeks ...a first for him in over 12yrs..!!
We went in a motorhome all about Europe.... we spent every day, 24/7 for the whole time together....(I am presently waiting for the downtime/meltdown-which I've already suggested ) but he was so relaxed....!! I became aware that he drove... and I was responsible for getting us booked in and the 'buffer' with ALL OTHER HUMANS during our trip....
So is this normal...??(hate using that word.)
I got everything from food, booking restaurants, shopping, coffee rests, all communication with the outside world, camp sites .... everything...!! I was surprised how a successful (in work) person can but cannot deal with people.... I am an organiser.... so it works so well for us.... but still I was surprised...he literally spoke to no one else.... for the whole time...!!
Is this what it's going to be like...?
It was a great trip and I think we were both stunned how...
I met my boyfriend online (granted, we live within 10 minutes away from each other) and we are a very good match. At first I didn't think I had a chance with him but that turned out not to be true, obviously. In some ways we are very similar but in more ways we are very different people. Opposites attract, I guess.
I am actually not sure if he is on the spectrum or if he is just a "weird" (using the term affectionately) NT. He is an extrovert, very dramatic, very charming, very handsome, good manners, good sense of humour, good fashion sense, talented singer and dancer, multilingual, and sort of likes and gets along with everyone indiscriminately. However he has what seem to be special interests and he is an intellectual. One of his two best friends (he grew up with them) is an Aspie and the other is moderately physically disabled (the friends have been very open and accepting of me). He refers to himself as a "closet nerd," meaning that he is nerdy but doesn't want it to be...
The focus of this thread is not so much depression, but rather the correlation of depression and those on the spectrum. As I have studied the subject to the best of my understanding and spent time here on AC, I have noticed that most on the spectrum suffer from depression in one form or another.
Is there a correlation between depression and ASD or is it brought on by other factors like life challenges, bullying, etc?
Looking back, I can clearly recall going through a serious bought with depression when I was very small, perhaps 7 or 8-years-old. I could not articulate what was wrong, but I recall being in a terrible funk and crying at the drop of a hat. Growing up in the kind of household I did didn’t help, and during a period when “children didn’t get depressed, so I suffered through.
I don’t know if my depression was because of the AS or because of other factors like the...
There are probably more, but for me it would be;
"Just TRY to remember next time" or "DON'T forget".
As if I had a choice to remember or not remember.
Even now I'm struck by futility of those words.
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