I wasn't sure how to name the post so I've just named it the way I've named it... I've just read a post, don't want to say anything in response because I think it's pointless but it makes me think... I do understand that folks on the spectrum are different both men and women and we do need more clarity sometimes from others but it seems to me that there're certain similarities between spectrum men and Neurotypical men and the same goes for the women... duh
like for instance, just tell me if you don't think like that, because I might be wrong here... men don't like when women are not clear about their intentions and women on the other hand consciously or subconsciously, want men to guess what they want, which is rarely possible. In my theory that is one of the reasons why so many women fall for good players (I don't mean slimy idiots) and men fall for women, for whom they are the heroes (at least that's how it appears to the men). In the 1st case women think that those men do guess their wishes and in the 2nd case men think they know what women expect from them.
Failed expectations cause so many issues in relationships especially when one or both partners are not clear about what they want. If one of them is on the spectrum it can become even more complicated. I for instance, have taken things literary so many times and needed very specific instructions in many situations, it is probably an issue for many other people as well. I tried to learn though... surprisingly I couldn't really. But anyway... I'm still a woman and somehow it seems I've also had this tendency to believe that men can or maybe even should guess what women want not anymore though my husband keeps telling me, that men like clarity and agrees with all the endless comedians and movies where the issue is mentioned. And I see and hear so many times when women don't understand why men don't see such obvious things... yeah...
what do you think about all this?